As much as it pains me to say it, my 21st birthday is fast approaching. It doesn’t matter how hard you try and sugarcoat it, I know i’ll be plunged headfirst into adulthood, expected to get myself a ‘big-girl’ job and begin buying my own groceries. Boo! Whilst anticipating my fate these past few months, I’ve been pondering on what its meant to be 20 year old Holly. I’ve been reminiscing on what I’ve experienced, who I’ve met, and most importantly; what I’ve learnt.
Looking back, this year has definitely been a huge learning curve for me. I’ve discovered a whole lot about who I am, what I’m capable of, and what I’m not. Its safe to say that my emotions and my sanity have really been put to the test (I know, and its only mid-June!). After quite a lot of deliberation, I’ve managed to narrow it down to 5 things that I’ve learnt whilst being 20. There could have easily been more than 5, but to spare you, here they are:
DO NOT Feel Bad For Cutting People Out of Your Life
Younger Holly would feel incredibly guilty about this. I’m guilty of being somebody who does everything in their power to try and please everybody around them, but this year, enough was enough. I learnt that if somebody is not bringing joy to my life or is attempting to drag me down into the ditch that they’re heading towards, I shouldn’t feel bad for cutting myself loose. Since learning to drop the guilt and let go of people who aren’t enhancing my life, It has helped me to begin leading a much happier and fulfilling lifestyle. Be brave and do what is right for you.
Life Is Short and Incredibly Fragile
After recent events this past month, I’ve learnt just how short and fragile life can be. When your younger, you unconsciously think that you will be young forever. Your so secure in your little bubble of youth that terror and death are only something made up and hand-drawn in our comic books. It is only when you have to experience these atrocities that you truly understand the fragility of life.. And when you have that perspective, you’ll begin living your life without looking backwards.
Worrying Only Means That You Suffer Twice
Its taken me years to acknowledge the fact that I’m a persistent worrier. When I catch myself not worrying about something, my poor mind will find something for me to worry about. Its a curse, I swear. But often when I look back at the things that I was worrying about to begin with, 95% of them never happened! Whats worse is that I’ll never be able to reclaim the time back that I wasted worrying about something that never even manifested itself into the real world. Or even made a difference to my everyday life! Some of the things that I’ve worried about this year were things that wouldn’t ever affect me or my quality of life anyway; so what was I doing wasting my time? Now that I’ve acknowledged my crime, I’m able to evaluate the situation accordingly and stop myself unnecessarily worrying (well…I try to!).
Have Faith In Humanity
The opportunities I’ve had and the things that I have experienced since starting university, especially this year, have given me great insight into how similar our values and are as humans. It doesn’t matter where you come from, what you believe, or what language you speak, we all have the same innate tendency to want to help and care for other humans. Deep down, we all want the best for one another and we all care about eachother’s well being , no matter what sort spiel the media tries to spin us.
This year, I’ve learnt to put my trust in the community. I’ve learnt that not everybody is out to get us and in times of crisis, people will unite together in the name of love and compassion. I’ve seen it happen, right here in my hometown. Strangers who pass us unknowingly in the street were stopping and offering up their resources and time to people who needed it most. Small, local businesses offering their facilities, free of charge, in order to offer safety and shelter. I have seen that in times of panic and terror, people act selflessly and act out of love. Atrocities like terrorist attacks offer momentary fear, but a lifetime’s supply of faith and restoration in the people of the community. They remind us that we are all brothers and sisters on this planet. It reminds us that people are love.
I Am Capable Of Succeeding Solo
Without even realising it, I’ve succeeded solo in so many aspects of my life as a 20 year old. A prime example of this is my degree. I managed to smash my second year at university, completing assignments alone (without any help from my peers), and get the grade that I wanted! Boom! I didn’t think I was capable of participating in a degree involving hard science and mathematics, but by by golly, I’ve gone and done it! I’m so proud of myself for all of the blood, sweat and actual tears that I’ve poured into my work this year. It’s paid off and most importantly given me faith in my own capabilities.I don’t need to lean on others so much in order to succeed, I already have the skills that I need.
What have you learnt this year? Have you discovered something about yourself that you didn’t know before? Share it in the comments section below.
With love always,