2017 marks the year that I finally turned the big 21. 21; Its bitter-sweet, alright. As much as I enjoy being old enough to drink, travel the world using my hard-earned cash, and live comfortably in my own home with my partner, I’d do absolutely anything to flip those numbers round and declare myself as 12 again (hey – who’s saying that I can’t?). But really, I’d do anything to be 12 year old Holly again.
However, apart from physically ageing and having more responsibilities, getting older has its perks. You manage to learn a thing or two about yourself and about the world. Mostly about yourself though; the world is hard anybody of any age to fully understand. To commemorate my 21 years of existence, I’ve compiled together a well-thought-out list of 21 invaluable lessons that I’ve learnt over the years. I took my time writing these. Hopefully some of these will strike a chord with you (or give you the good kick up the back side that you need!).
- As cliché as it sounds, everything that you’ve experienced in your life happens for a reason. It is there to teach you a lesson and help you grow. It may suck at first, but once you’re through it and onto the other side, your much better off having experienced it than not.
- Regret only holds you back. You can’t change the way that you have acted in the past, but you do have the ability to change who you are in the present moment and your future. Use the past experiences that you’re not proud of to steer you into the right direction.
- More often than not, you get back what you put into your relationships. Give kindness to receive it.
- Having a few solid, reliable friends is far better for you in the long run than being part of a large group of acquaintances. It may feel good at the time, but those acquaintances aren’t going to stick around for long after high school or college. Your real friends will.
- It’s okay to say no to invites to social gatherings and parties. If they’re your real friends, then they’ll understand if you don’t feel up to it. Don’t push yourself too hard and don’t be afraid to look after yourself mentally.
- We really are our own worst critics. Sometimes we need to take a step back and truly appreciate how far that we’ve grown as people and as functioning human beings.
- You’re never going to be the same person as you were yesterday, and that’s an amazing yet equally scary prospect. Be reassured that with each passing day, you’re always going to be a better, wiser version of yourself.
- Loving and accepting yourself is the best thing that you can do for your confidence and your overall self-esteem.
- Relationships, romantic or non-romantic, will come and go like seasons. If they stick, then we should be grateful. If they don’t then we should be equally as grateful for the lessons that they have taught us while they were here.
- We are supposed to make mistakes; that is how we learn. Don’t be ashamed if you appear to make more of them than others.
- Material possessions will only fill a void for so long. The novelty will wear off soon enough and then you’ll be back to square one. It’s more beneficial spending time fixing problems rather than covering them up.
- Collecting memories is way more effective than collecting souvenirs.
- Your always stronger than you think you are. It takes being pushed to the limit to realise your own strength.
- Your gut instinct is always right. You should listen to it when it speaks to you.
- Your family aren’t going to be around forever. Make sure you tell them that you love them whilst you have the opportunity.
- It’s okay to be a slow learner. We may be slow, but we always learn in the end. It’s not about who can do it first.
- Not everybody is a threat to you. It’s often your inability to recognise your worth that makes them appear as a threat.
- I shouldn’t care so much about menial, trivial daily hassles. It’s all temporary and I know that I am going to do great things in my lifetime, bigger than the situation I’m in now.
- Other’s ‘perceived’ opinions of me shouldn’t cloud my own judgement of myself. I know myself better than they know me, so I should trust my own judgement more.
- Pressing pause for a while doesn’t mean that your lazy. It means that you know how to take care of yourself and value yourself enough to take a time out. You don’t always have to be set to go-go-go to feel like you have purpose.
- I am destined for greatness. It’s okay not to know how or why yet, but know that you have a greater purpose
With Love Always,